You may have promised to stay with your spouse until death do you part,
but lately you may feel like things are not the way they once were. Sadly,
this occurs all too often in a marriage. People change, as do marriages.
Sometimes, individuals no longer feel like marriage is the right option
for them. They may check out of a union long before the divorce papers
are filed. If your gut it telling you that your spouse wants to dissolve
the marriage, it might not be wrong! You can look for key warning signs
to back up your suspicions.
1. Change in Sex Life
It can be common for a couple to have less sex throughout the years of
their marriage. Youthful passion generally transforms into intimate understanding.
The number of times a couple engages in sexual intercourse varies. There
is no right or wrong number. However, if you do notice a sudden change
in the bedroom, it might indicate something is not right.
2. Spending More Time Outside of the Home
Have you noticed that your spouse tends to work later or go out more? Is
this a new occurrence? If so, it might be something to look into closely.
The home can be a haven for the married couple. It can be a space for
the couple to spend quality time together. However, if you notice your
spouse spends less time at home, it can indicate trouble. It might mean
that they no longer feel comfortable in their home, they are seeking companionship
elsewhere, or are ready to move out. All of these can indicate your spouse
wanting a divorce.
3. Lack of Communication
Is it hard to talk to your husband or wife? Do they often avoid communication?
This might indicate that your spouse is ignoring problems, which makes
it difficult to come up with resolutions. If your spouse no longer communicates
with you, it might mean that he or she has checked out of the marriage
and may want a divorce.
4. They are Cold and Aloof
Has your spouse lost their spark? Does it feel like an uphill struggle
just to get them to smile at you? If your husband or wife is cold and
aloof, they may be trying to place a distance between the two of you;
a greater distance than is already there. Although there can be many reasons
why they act this way, it may be because it will make the divorce less
painful if they no longer feel a connection.
5. They Constantly Criticize
Another indication that your spouse may want a divorce is if they are constantly
finding things wrong with you or what you do. It might feel like your
husband or wife only has negative comments to make about you. If they
already have divorce on their mind, they might use this tactic to reaffirm
their decision. They will use these criticisms to rationalize wanting
6. Lack of Intimacy
Intimacy does not always mean sex. You may still have sex with your partner
but lack the vital connection that initially brought you two together.
Intimacy can mean a genuine interest in each other and the comforting
companionship of a spouse. If your husband or wife feels like a stranger
to you, it may indicate trouble.
7. Constantly Picking Fights
Does it feel like you and your spouse can no longer have a conversation
without it devolving into an argument? This can be a sign that your spouse
may want a divorce. The continuous fighting can be a mark of a failing
relationship. If your spouse refuses to listen or make compromises, it
can mean that they have given up on the marriage.
8. Preparing for a Single Life
Has your spouse picked up new habits? Do they spend more time working on
their appearance? Have they taken up new and unexpected hobbies? While
all of these things may seem innocuous, they can be indicators that your
spouse is preparing for a life after divorce.
At James D. Madden & Aruna P. Rodrigo, Family Law Attorneys, we understand how difficult it can
be to acknowledge troubles within a marriage. We always urge you to try
to work it out and salvage the relationship. However, if that is not possible,
our San Bernardino divorce attorneys are ready to help you. Contact us
today for a free consultation.