New research shows that more individuals are obtaining divorces after a
long marriage. Given the longer lifespans and more opportunities for women,
marriage is not what it was 50 years ago. However, if you do decide to
divorce your spouse of 15, 20, or 30 years, it can be daunting. The dissolution
of marriage can be both saddening and a relief. If you and your ex know
that divorce is inevitable, it is better to follow your instincts. After
ending a long marriage, life can seem uncertain and unstable. We want
to make sure you are not alone. The better you prepare yourself, the easier
it will seem.
What to Consider After a Long Divorce
Divorce can seem jarring after a number of years married. You may feel like you
have to find out who you are as a single person. While that realization
and healing comes with time, you can plan certain things in advance to
make the transition smoother.
It’s a frightening thought to live alone after years of marriage.
However, you want to consider where you will live after the divorce. Will
you and your ex sell the marital home and split the shares? Will one person
live in the house, while the other obtains residence elsewhere? Will you
live with your children? You should think of this before finalizing your divorce.
Another important aspect to consider is your finances. If one spouse was
the sole financial provider, the other will need to figure out how to
support themselves. In long divorces, the court may appoint one person
spousal support to help them maintain their accustomed standard of living. For individuals
who have been out of the workforce for a number of years, you should consider
employment opportunities or honing in on marketable skills.
If you have children, no matter how old they are, it will be difficult
for them to wrap their minds around their parents obtaining a divorce.
Your whole family will need to adjust to a new family dynamic. Who will
you spend the holidays with? How will this affect your relationship with
other family members? This can be especially tricky when you are close
to your ex’s family. While there is no magical formula to make this
all work, it will take some learning and getting used.
Divorce is never an easy step. However, if you and your ex decide it is
the solution for you, our San Bernardino divorce attorneys at Matthew
Sheasby, Attorney at Law are ready to help. We understand the nuances
of ending a marriage. We will inform you of your rights and help protect them.
Contact us today to schedule a free consultation.